Introduction
Motivation is the reason why humans and other animals initiate, continue, or end a behavior at a given time. Do you need a superpower, Motivational states are generally understood as forces operating within the agent, creating a disposition to engage in goal-directed behavior.
It is often claimed that different mental states compete with each other and that only the strongest state determines behavior. So we all have behaviors that we’d like to change about ourselves, and we certainly all do that when I help someone else change their behaviors in a positive way.
So maybe your children or your spouse, your colleague. So I want to share with you some new research that I think reveals something really important about what drives people to change their behavior. But before we do that, let’s dive into a strategy that I think you probably use a lot. So let’s say you’re trying to stop yourself from snacking, what do you say to yourself?
Well, most people will say in a monologue, “Watch out, you’re getting fat.” we try to scare ourselves and others to change our behavior and we and our friends are not very common in political health campaigns, it is because we all share this deeply ingrained belief.
Warning threats are really common in health campaigns in policy it’s because we all share this deep-rooted belief that if you threaten people if you were induced it will get them to act and it seems like a really reasonable assumption that the size shows that have very limited impact on behavior. So graphic images on cigarette packets for example do not deter smokers from smoking and one study found after looking at those images quitting actually became a lower priority for smokers.
How to stay motivated
Do you hate to wake up early to go to the gym or to work hard in school, or at your job do you have to postpone the work that you know you should do or maybe just wish that somebody else would do it for you if you answered yes to any of those questions than the world has probably told you that you are lazy or that crap procrastinator who lacks motivation at least this is what I was personally told and for a long time,
I believe them I bought into their BS my labeled myself as that lazy procrastinator who will never achieve any grade in academic success. and I carry this mediocre mind said of getting mediocre grades and put it in mediocre effort all the way up until my college years but one day.
I was presented with the opportunity to study abroad in Europe and this gummy was really exciting nothing even remotely related to school had ever gotten me excited so it starts to search and decided that I wanted to study abroad in Lisbon Portugal.
Because it had everything that I wanted in my mind going to Lisbon was going to be the thing that would make all my academic struggles worthwhile at that time it was the most important thing in my life but when I was talking to one of my professors about the exchange program and learned a few interesting things.
I learned that Portugal was the number one part of the choice among the students so it is going to be some competition and then I learned that my university chooses where all the students go based on how good their grades are imagine myself lying on the beach in Italy or eating or going to a party in the Czech Republic and after a week.
This time I work ok at best and then I learned that only 4 students are selected to go to Portugal which meant that if I wanted to go to Portugal my grades needed to be in the top 1% of my entire business program so it was me the lazy procrastinator going against all the other kids who have dedicated their entire lives to school that was my competition.
Relaxing
So the next day, I started to study really, really hard, way more than I had ever done in my entire life. I still remember walking through the library and seeing the other kids in my class who I knew wanted to go to Portugal.
We just made eye contact and we just had these intensities in our eyes because we both knew we were competing for the same thing. so the stakes are really, really high. As the semester progressed, my grades improved and my social life became more and more nonexistent, but one morning near the end of my semester,
My mother said something really interesting to me. She said I’ve never seen your work in that tough school maybe you’re a procrastinator after all and that line really got me thinking because this particular semester no teacher or student or parent would say that I’m lazy.
They would say that I’m really hard worker who you know really gets after it but in the previous semester just 5 months ago those same people would also say that I was a procrastinator and that I was lazy so which is it I can’t be both can I the truth is that no human being is just one thing nobody here is 100-percent lazy or 100-percent not lazy a first really understood this idea back in the 10th grade where I would do anything to procrastinate doing my homework because I hated school.
But I would everything on hold in order to play a computer game called Starcraft 2 which is actually a national sport in South Korea and I would spend hours just researching how to get better at StarCraft I would practice my skills practice different strategies and at one point.
I actually beat one of the top 200 players in North America I’m not saying this to break I’m saying this makes a point that when it came to school I was really lazy but when I came to gaming I was the opposite so the question how do I stop being lazy is it actually a great question to ask yourself how much better question would be why am I feeling lazy?
And the reason I felt lazy and I probably feel lazy for most of you is because we all did the wrong thing. Maybe you learn the wrong things for your job at the wrong job, when you feel lazy you should be careful and take notes because sometimes it’s your intuition or your body or your speaker or whatever you want to call it, ok, you’re doing the wrong thing, do something else.
Something different, so if you’re feeling lazy and really want to feel motivated again, you need to understand these two key things. The first is to make sure you know the why behind what you’ve done because when you have it, you’ll still be able to do things you don’t really want to do but need to do.
For me, it was the motivation to do well in school to go to Europe. and you yes I’ve been to Portugal so this lazy procrastinator one so there’s hope for all of us and two and this is my best option if you’re bothered doing something you’re really passionate about because “life is short” If you have If you haven’t found what you really like, you have to at least start looking for it or you’ll wake up at 80 and things yourself: man, I’ve been spending my whole life to do the wrong thing and this picture really scares me.
But then how can I find something bad and passionate number one the best way to do that is to try new things unfortunately even if the movies tell you that not only will your passion show up one day but she won’t like, to come to your dream. If you have just entered your life, this is something you really need to seek out. And the reason I felt lazy and I probably feel lazy for most of you is because we all did the wrong thing.
Maybe you learn the wrong things for your job at the wrong job, when you feel lazy you should be careful and take notes because sometimes it’s your intuition or your body or your speaker or whatever you want to call it, ok, you’re doing the wrong thing, do something else. Something different, so if you’re feeling lazy and really want to feel motivated again, you need to understand these two key things.
Get Motivated
The first is to make sure you know why what you did, because when you have it, you can still do things you don’t really want to do but need to do. For me, it was the motivation to do well in school to go to Europe. and you yes I was in Portugal so this lazy procrastinator so there is hope for the both of us, and this is my best option.
If you mind doing something you are really passionate about because “life is short”. If you haven’t found what you really like, you need to at least start looking for it or you’ll wake up at 80 and be like, man, I’ve spent my whole life doing the wrong thing and this photo really scares me.
But then how can I find something bad and passionate number one the best way to do that is to try new things unfortunately even if the movies tell you that not only will your passion show up one day but she won’t like, to come to your dream. If you have just entered your life, this is something you really need to seek out.
“I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.”
Estée Lauder
You can also read: How to wake up early?!
Great motivational video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgmVOuLgFB0&ab_channel=MateuszM
